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Emotional Shielding

June 26, 2010 1 comment

Dear Witchful Thinking,

I’m a college student and I’m home for the summer. Unfortunately, my home has become a very negative place. Can you give me any tips on emotional shielding?


Dear Anon,

Coming home from college can be a tough transition. You are used to running your own schedule and having your own space. It is a time when you explore who you are as an individual outside your family, and then coming home can be a difficult experience. Sometimes our folks aren’t honestly ready for us to leave, because as far as they are concerned, you’re still their baby. Sometimes you come back and find that things aren’t the same. For parents, having a kid out of the house gives them room to look at their relationship, and they don’t always like what they see.

Whatever the reason, there are several ways you can shield yourself from negativity:

  • Shield Yourself. Create a charm or amulet–something you can wear. A Pentacle works perfect for this: start at each of the corners and trace it with your athame, wand or finger. Visualize the power of earth, air, fire, water and spirit protecting you. See yourself wearing it, and a protective egg around you that lets in only good and safe energy. Imagine any negativity simply bouncing off harmlessly, to be transformed into something else later. You can raise some energy into it by chanting, humming, soaking it in the moonlight or sun, or whatever seems appropriate to your spell. Whenever you wear it, you know that eggshell of energy is protecting you. When things get rough, touch or pull gently on it, to release the protection and remind you that you are safe.
  • Shield Your Space. If you have your own room, or a place that you call yours in your parents house, consider making it a sanctuary. First, clean the heck out of it! You can burn some sage and let the sacred smoke banish the negative vibes, but beware that the smoke sometimes smells like marijuana! Another option is cedar or sweetgrass. You can usually pick these things up at a New Age or metaphysical store. If you live in the Pacific Northwest, you might be able to find a dry piece of cedar outside. Or consider aspirging with sea salt water. Once your space is vibrationally clean, cast a semi-permanent circle. Using your athame, wand or projective hand, draw a circle around your room. Visualize the energy surrounding it and making a 3-D bubble. Draw the energy up from the Earth. Give this boundary a purpose, that is keep out all negativity, that negativity inside be dissolved away, and that love and safety shall prevail in the circle. Consider decorating it to reflect that serenity, or create an altar to hold the energy of safety. When the energy of the room feels good, draw a door on top of your door, and tell the circle that you want to be able to come and go freely, with the door acting as a permeable barrier that still keeps out negativity. Should someone burst in your room and spill their negativity everywhere, you can always clear it out again. Remember the more energy you put into your visualizations, the stronger they become. When the break is over, and it is time to go back to college, take down your sacred space–it takes energy to sustain it, and the distance between home and college will make it tiresome.
  • Shield your Astral Self. If you are adept at meditating, consider this idea. Go to the Astral Plane and shield yourself there. Ask any entities for advice or insight into the problem. Try visiting a deity you work closely with and see if they have any thoughts. Ask them to protect you in the physical and Astral worlds.
  • Actively Banish the Yuck. You can use a Mudra to banish the negativity and calm yourself. Choose a hand gesture that is subtle and easy to remember, perhaps the thumb and forefinger squished together so the hand resembles a dog, or make an OK sign. Whatever you choose, go into a meditative state and “program” your Mudra to your needs. Again, visualize yourself being safe and secure, protected from negativity whenever you do the hand gesture. With this programed, you have only to make the gesture, and you will feel its effects! Be sure to be specific when you program.
  • Try the Mundane. Magic always works better when paired with a mundane manifestation of your desire. If there is conflict in the house, it is ok to face it. Problems rarely go away on their own, and if you address it and bring it into the light, so to speak, it is much more likely to be addressed. Even if you can’t actually do anything about it, you can gently voice your concerns, talk over how you feel and how it affects you. People don’t always consider how their problems affect other people. Maybe there is something you could do to make the problem better, but don’t get tangled up in someone elses mess! Unfortunately, people have to learn their lessons on their own. The best you can do is tend to your own life lessons.

I hope that gives you enough to get through the summer. Good luck with this situation! Remember that college is right around the corner.


Some Things Don’t Belong To You: Part II

March 22, 2010 Leave a comment

The God of All Kinds of Stuff....including thievery.

I talked in another post about how sometimes things we buy for ritual and magical purposes don’t actually belong to us. I don’t think I mentioned that sometimes things get stolen.

The other day, I went to my car and found broken glass everywhere, and the passenger side window was a big gaping hole. Someone had busted in and started taking stuff from my rather full-of-stuff car. Of course my sweetheart and I called the police. Of course they found no finger prints. Of course after he filed the report we found some other things were missing from the car.

I get taking the MP3 players. I get taking the GPS and all the accessories. What I don’t understand is taking a 15+ year old portable CD player, or my rubber rain boots, the car emergency kit, or the drum I take to festivals. What bothers me the most is he took a purse I had in there, a purse which held almost a 20 year collection of folk songs, country dances and tin whistle music. What’s he going to do with that? I fully expect it to turn up in a ditch somewhere, or a garbage can. This guy is throwing away my memories, my sense of security…and what’s he getting out of it? For $200 worth of damage, he’ll probably get $150 for everything he took. And I’m left shaking in my non-existant boots wondering where it all went wrong and why me and why now.

Of course my athame was sitting on the back seat of the car. You know. The one that’s been missing since last spring! So the lesson here is that if I want power, I have to give up my security? That doesn’t seem like a very good lesson.

A few years ago, my girlfriend Cassie had her backpack stolen while she was in Canada. There were lots of things of value to her in there. We did a spell and chanted “Bring Cassie’s black back pack back”–which was really fun to say. A week later, she got a call from the border guard, saying someone had left it there. Everything of value to her was still inside. It was a freaking miracle.

Part of me wants to do a spell like that, although I suspect much of the power was in the words of the chant itself, and I’m not sure how to make “bring back the contents of my car” sound clever. But the other part of me doesn’t care very much–it is just stuff after all. I can get another MP3 player, I wasn’t using the CD player, and it was time to update the GPS technology anyway. Of course it comes at a time when I’m holding my breath waiting for my tax rebate which will probably never come and I haven’t been working much. Replacing these items will take a long time as the window is first priority. I’m not looking forward on spending my hard-earned money to fix my car window that some other asshole broke.

What I’ve taken out of this is that I need to have a visit with Hermes. Maybe I could do some things better so that I don’t look like an easy target. Maybe he wants me to give him something. Really, I would have rather bought a new athame than a new car window. I wonder what Karma this is and why anyone deserves this.

I hope they catch this fool. I hope I get some of my stuff back. I hope the window gets fixed soon because it really sucks to drive with a plastic bag creating a blind spot the size of a VW bug. Ultimately, I hope whatever lesson I was supposed to learn…well, I hope I learned it right the first time!

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